Are Y'all Being Stupid?
A broad checkup of relationship strengths, difficult patterns, and useful next steps.
Serious romantic relationships
Take this checkupStart with a better question.
Take an honest look at your relationships, your choices, and the habits you fall into when life gets difficult. Then choose one practical next step.
Free. Immediate results. Email required for report delivery. Follow-up guidance is optional. No account required. For adults. Relationship checkups and individual self-reflection tools.
Are You the Problem?
An honest look at what YOU bring to the relationship.
Serious romantic relationships
Take this checkupHow Do You Fight?
The No Nonsense Conflict Style Checkup
Serious romantic relationships
Take this checkupAre You Emotionally Available?
The No Nonsense Connection Checkup
Serious romantic relationships
Take this checkupWhat's Your Relationship Blind Spot?
The stuff you do not notice until it is causing problems.
Serious romantic relationships
Take this checkupWhere Do Your Boundaries Break Down?
Notice where stating limits, saying yes, or respecting a no becomes difficult.
Individual insight
Take this checkupWhat Do You Do When Life Piles Up?
Understand the habits you fall into when demands pile up, then choose one useful change.
Individual insight
Take this checkupAre Your Choices Matching Your Values?
Choose what matters to you, then examine how everyday decisions support it.
Individual insight
Take this checkupDo You Actually Listen?
Notice whether the person talking gets understanding or your rebuttal.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupCan You Be Trusted?
Look at what your actions give another person reason to expect.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupDo You Trust Too Little?
Examine how you respond to uncertainty while respecting real evidence and personal safety.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupWho’s Carrying the Load?
Look beyond the visible chore to planning, remembering, and following through.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupDo You Actually Apologize?
Find out whether your apology makes room for repair or turns into a defense.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupHow Do You Handle Money Together?
Examine communication, agreements, and financial choices that affect both of you.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupAre Your In-Laws in Your Marriage?
Look at how family relationships and partnership decisions affect each other.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupAre You Parenting as a Team?
Reflect on agreements, disagreements, and what children experience.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupIs Your Phone in the Relationship?
Examine attention, digital agreements, and respect for privacy.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupAre You Holding a Grudge?
Notice what happens when hurt remains unresolved or old mistakes keep returning.
Individual insight
Take this checkupAre You a People-Pleaser?
Examine the cost of saying yes when the answer you mean is no.
Individual insight
Take this checkupAre You Ready to Date Again?
Reflect on your own choices after a breakup, divorce, or time away from dating.
Individual insight
Take this checkupAre You Ready for Marriage?
Identify conversations and habits worth examining before making a marriage commitment.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupThe Military Family Checkup
Consider the practical and relationship changes around military schedules, separations, returns, and moves.
Relationship insight
Take this checkupCo-Parenting After Divorce
Focus on the children, workable communication, and the responsibilities you control.
Individual insight
Take this checkupThis is an educational self-reflection tool based on your own answers. It is not clinically validated, does not diagnose a mental health condition or personality disorder, and does not determine who is responsible for a relationship's problems. Results are working descriptions, not fixed traits or your partner's actual thoughts.
The flagship checkup saves unfinished answers in this browser for up to 24 hours. Other checkups keep answers only in page memory. Downloaded reports contain personal information; choose where to keep or share them.